today I would like to share with you some of the tips from amazing book by Helen Andelin “Fascinating Womanhood”. This book is like an encyclopedia to femininity and I recomend every lady to read it. So far in my blog I’m going to post some really helpful advices from the book. So stay tuned and be pretty. V
The feminine manner is the motions of a woman’s body, the way she walks, talks, uses her hands, the sound of her voice, her facial expressions, and her conversation. The feminine manner is attractive to men because it is such a contrast to their ownmasculine strength and firmness.
1. The Hands
Avoid stiff, brusque movements. Don’t wave your hands in the air or use them firmly in expressing yourself. Never pound on the table to put over a point. Never slap anyone on the back. Never shake a man’s hand with strength and vigor. The handshake hould be gentle but firm. Take a man’s arm lightly.
2. The Walk
Avoid a heavy gait or long strides, such as the way men walk. Don’t copy the fashion model walk. It is arrogant and unfeminine. Walk in a light, graceful, natural manner. To induce a light walk, imagine you weigh ninety-five lbs.
3. The Voice
If you ever learning to walk and use your hands correctly, you tend to modulate your voice to harmonize with your manner.But,if you discover your voice is spoiling the impression you are trying to create, make an effort to change it. Here are the rules:
Don’t talk too loud. And don’t let your voice suggest mannish effieciency or course boldness. No man likes a coarse, loud, vulgar tone in a woman any more than a woman likes an effeminate tone in a man. And no man likes mumbling, dull, monotonous, or singsong voice, because it indicates the character behind the voice is equally dull and uninteresting.
To improve your voice, practice talking in the privacy of your room. Speak slowly, pronounce words distinctly, and bring gentleness into your voice. Also, speak with expression. An excellent means of bringing expression into your voice is to read old fairy tales aloud, as they cover good and evil, joy and sorrow.When reading them, express emotion- eagerness, delight, enthusiasm, wonder, love, pity and every sentiment. Raise or lower your voice as needed for expression. But remember, our main objective is not only a good, clear voice but a gentle, feminine one.
4. The Laugh
Avoid any tendency to the masculine laugh such as deep or loud tone. Don’t open your mouth wide, throw your head back, slap your hands on your thighs, roar, cackle, snort, or anything coarse or vulgur. 🙂 If these extremes are avoided, the laugh will be acceptable.
5. Cooing and Purring
Cooing and purring may sound a bit syrupy, but we should not overlook it. Probably every women who has been a feminine coquette has impulsively spoken this way to the man she loves. Women tend to suppress the tendency to coo and purr around men, thinking it silly. However, when a women is around a baby, cooing is spontaneus. Have you noticed when women talk to babies or tiny children they tend to make gentle noises? It can be fascinating to men, even when bestowed on an infant.
6. Bewitching Languor
Languor is a calm, quiet air, similar to that of a cat relaxing before fireplace. It is like touch of a velvet. The opposite of languor is a nervous, high-strung manner such as biting the fingernails, jingling keys, twistering a handkerchief or fingering the nail. To developlanguor, work to overcome these habits.